Everything you do is embarrassing. Posting on Instagram? Really. Something as small as how you talk or laugh suddenly feels weird, or too much. Lately, everything just feels embarrassing. But why?
Well, a reason for everything seeming embarrassing is the overall fear of what people might perceive about you. The idea of people not liking you, talking about you, and saying rude things, makes everything you do feel weird and that you’re embarrassing yourself. You can’t even show how you feel because it looks like you’re trying too much even if it’s just saying something.
“I used to think about this a lot, but then I realized nobody really cares. It’s just you against yourself because it does not matter. Now that I post whatever I want, I am happier,” said senior Amelie Terry.
Part of this idea is knowing that nothing is really private, and especially the fear of things being screenshotted. Knowing that saying something that might seem embarrassing could and might be shared with people you don’t even know causes this huge fear.
“Anyone should post or do whatever they want, as long as it doesn’t harm others. Despite what others think, it doesn’t really matter,” said junior Isabella Iamunno.
The insecurity that comes from being scared of what people might think of you leads back into judging people over the smallest things. There have been so many times I have caught myself judging people for simply showing how they feel, saying something “ cringy” when it really just comes from the insecurity we feel about ourselves. And the worst part of all of this is that there are so many times that you do want to show how you feel to other people, there are things you want to say, do, or post, but you don’t because you’re scared. But then we end up judging someone for doing what we really want to do and call it “ embarrassing.”
At the end of the day, we can’t get rid of this. After all, it’s normal for us as teenagers to act this way. But, we can at least try our best to live with it. The best thing for us to do is to learn to live with it, post what you want to, say what you want to say because either way whether you do or don’t, everything is embarrassing anyway.
“When you start to learn that a lot of the judgment is a projection of other people’s insecurity, it becomes easier to care less or feel less attacked by the criticism,” said freshman Lucia Fink.
